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Are You Seeking Closure?
I hope you change your mind when you finish reading this.
It’s happened to most of us. Someone hurts us in ways we never thought they would, and we want to know why.
Why did you do that to me?
Am I not important to you?
Is there a chance that things could go back to the way it was?
Why won’t you talk to me?
We stay up countless sleepless nights thinking about it. And then one 3 AM morning, we send that text, toss the phone aside, and try to fall asleep. Would we regret the choices we made? That’s a problem for tomorrow me. The answer they give us will ultimately help us decide if we still want to pursue them or it’s time to move on.
People do not just seek closure for relationships. A lot of us also seek closure when we lose our jobs, lose a loved one, or when we need to let go of something important to us. When we seek closure, we’re trying to find answers to something that may have left us confused or disoriented because we want to work out the hurt it has caused us. We get closure when the answers satisfy us, allowing us to move on peacefully.
And you see, sweetheart, this is precisely why we should stop seeking closure from those who hurt us. If they cared about how you felt, they…
