Being good at multitasking is a myth. Here’s why.

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Have you ever met someone who said they were good at multi-tasking? Or maybe you have said it as well. We might have even mentioned it in job interviews to impress our potential employers. For many people, multitasking is seen as a great skill to have because it allows them to get more things done at once. Perhaps so, but does it help get things done effectively?

I just finished reading a book titled “Unlimited Memory: How to Use Advanced Learning Strategies to Learn Faster, Remember More and be More Productive” by Kevin Horsley, an International Professional Speaker, Grandmaster of…


You owe your kids a good life, not the other way around.

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“Who’s going to take care of me when I am old? Who is going to provide for me when I am retired? Our neighbour’s kid is earning more money than you, when are you going to earn that much money? What am I supposed to tell our relatives?”

Have you ever heard of parents getting disappointed when their children choose to pursue a creative career instead of a “higher-paying” white-collar job? Or when their children choose to pick up a major in university that they think won’t bring the money?

Often (especially common in Asian households), parents try to raise…


Avid readers, here are 6 reasons to buy a Kindle if you have not already.

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My mother and I sat down at the dining table, watching my 1-year-old daughter playing with her toys.

“I wonder if she will grow up like you,” my mother said.

“Why?” I asked.

“When you were growing up, you read a lot. You brought at least one book with you wherever you go. You were so obsessed with reading,” she explained.

While I hope that my daughter grows up with the same love for books as I did, I couldn’t help but wonder what happened to my love for reading.

I wish I could…


I hope you change your mind when you finish reading this.

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It’s happened to most of us. Someone hurts us in ways we never thought they would, and we want to know why.

Why did you do that to me?

Am I not important to you?

Is there a chance that things could go back to the way it was?

Why won’t you talk to me?

We stay up countless sleepless nights thinking about it. And then one 3 AM morning, we send that text, toss the phone aside, and try to fall asleep. Would we regret the choices we made? That’s a problem for tomorrow me. …


When Malaysians come back from scholarships overseas to fight for equal access to education for all Malaysians, are they “burning the bridge” that helped them? That’s what the tweet below seems to think.

Translation: Get a MARA scholarship, study overseas. After graduation: “Now it’s time to dismantle race-based institutions.” You used the bridge, now you’re trying to burn it so other people can’t use it. They stay elite.

Ironically, “burning the bridge” sounds like something elitist Malay-Muslims would do instead. That is why I have seen people saying that non-Bumiputeras should be thankful they were given bare minimum education because the Malays could choose to not shut off access to education for them entirely, but didn’t.

People who study overseas and choose to come back to Malaysia do it because they have an attachment to…


We live in a world designed to erase the existence of women.

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First, they will tell you that you’re too “revealing”. That the sight of your skin brings their “innate nature” alive. You are now responsible for their bad intentions. They say the only way is to cover up.

Now you go out without revealing any skin. You try your best to cover what you can. They won’t know how you look like underneath, right? Suddenly you’re “mysterious”. They become curious of you. You are now responsible for their bad intentions. They say the only way is to stay at home.

You’ve decided that the world out there is dangerous, so you…


Testimony from an ex-anti of all things Korean Pop.

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If you told me 2 years ago (yes, only 2 years ago!) that today, I will be a K-Pop fan, I’d probably flick you off. I’m not even exaggerating. I used to hate K-Pop. This deep-rooted hatred stemmed from being annoyed at how it flooded my social media feeds, the television screen, and billboards. Radios would frequently play K-pop songs as well.

I never understood the hype… Until I did.

My ‘anti’ phase is not something that I am proud of, and I’m a bit embarrassed that it took meeting my husband for me to realise how big of a…


As a mother, one of the questions I hate hearing is, “Why would you choose career over being a mother?” Let’s try turn this question around. Why would a man choose his career over being a father? Why don’t men just stay at home and leave the working to the woman?

Imagine being a parent that was forced to stay home solely to take care of the home and kids? Before you fall asleep, what do you think of? What do you dream of? As any person would, you’d do whatever within your capabilities to achieve that dream. Why do…


We are already trying our best.

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Trigger Warning: this article contains discussions of rape that may not be suitable for all readers. Your mental health comes first. Fearless community, please read with care.

Recently, a “dai” (religious figure) was exposed for his manipulative ways of sleeping with innocent, unsuspecting women by luring them to his house.

Earlier this year, an ex-friend was outed as a sexual assailant. Needless to say, the character assassination against him was brutal. No one blamed the victims. In fact, many danced over the trauma of his victims because they didn’t like him. …

Shafiqah Othman

Singapore-bred Malaysian who enjoys sharing her too honest thoughts on life, feminism, love, and religion among other things. www.shafiqahothman.com

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